Kathleen at Yosemite Though I changed my relationship status from "In a Relationship" to "Engaged" a few weeks ago in my Facebook profile, it's time that I just came out in a more public forum.

So here it is: I'm engaged to be married to a truly amazing woman later this year.

While we started dating late last year (mid-October to be exact), I've been pretty quiet about it online. That's partly because I didn't want to expose Kathleen to an audience of a few thousand people without knowing what might happen--she has little of an online footprint. And it's partly because it's my own damned business and private life, and sometimes there has to be a line between what's public and what's not. I'm sure you understand. :-) Oh, and I didn't want to jinx it!

Of course, the few of you who follow my Flickr photos may have seen a few pictures of her now and then, but that's really been it.

But enough about my on-line life. What you're really wondering about is who she is (and what sort of mental disorder compels her to spend time with me!). I could tell you countless great things about her (many of which I tell her on a daily basis), but I'll be brief. Kathleen was born a mere 2 weeks before me, grew up in the state of New York, attended MIT undergrad, has a PhD from Stanford, and works as a research scientist in the Bay Area. She's also a glider pilot and working on her single engine rating. She's smart, beautiful, kind, caring, and fun to be around.

We have a lot in common aside from a love of flying. We have very similar goals for the future, religious views (or lack of them), geographic preferences, choice of pets, tastes in food, vacation ideas, hobbies we wish we had time for, thoughts on whether or not (and when) to have children one day, and more. I could go on.

In short, we're very compatible. So much so that it's scary (in a good way) at times. I'd try to cite specific examples, but I'd honestly expect you not to believe me. Seriously. I can't count the number of times I've thought to myself "I can't possibly be this lucky..."

But I am.

We've had a few bumps in the road, of course. Some of them were the likely the result of the fact that I simply hadn't made dating a priority for a long time. You may recall Flying as Therapy and On Balance and Changing in recent months. There are deeper stories behind them, and I'm still in awe at the public and private responses that second one elicited. But each time we've come away stronger, knowing each other better, and even more confident about our future. It's all part of the journey.

I'm incredibly happy that we managed to find each other at times in our lives when we were both ready to find each other. But even more than that, I'm excited about the future we're going to have together.

After we've worked out more of the details, maybe I'll write a bit about our unconventional wedding plans. :-)

This is already longer than I thought it'd be, so I hereby return you to your regularly schedule geeky stuff, flying pictures, strange news, and occasional ranting--as soon as I come up with something.

Posted by jzawodn at July 28, 2007 09:25 PM

Reader Comments
# Steve said:

Congrats...you are a lucky man. But when you fly together who'll be in the right seat and who in the left?

on July 28, 2007 08:51 PM
# Nick said:

Congratulations, Jeremy, she's a beautiful woman. It's really great when someone can really connect with someone else so well, and I wish you all the best. :)

on July 28, 2007 08:54 PM
# Justin Blanton said:

Woah, congrats Jeremy!

on July 28, 2007 08:55 PM
# Marc Hedlund said:

Congratulations! That's fantastic news!

on July 28, 2007 08:58 PM
# Barnaby James said:


on July 28, 2007 09:05 PM
# jr said:

Congrats and best wishes!

Oh yeah, and let me the first to recommend you elope.

on July 28, 2007 09:09 PM
# Doug Kaye said:

Whoah! Smart and a pilot, no less. You *are* a lucky man, indeed. Congratulations to you both.

on July 28, 2007 09:16 PM
# Barnaby James said:

Congrats! Yes, eloping has it's advantages ;-)

on July 28, 2007 09:24 PM
# Ola said:


on July 28, 2007 09:25 PM
# Dave Smith said:


on July 28, 2007 09:46 PM
# Bharath R said:

Woahh! Awesome, awesome!! A perfect match indeed!! Congrats Jeremy. Here's wishing the two of you the very best.

on July 28, 2007 10:10 PM
# John said:

Congratulations, Jeremy! I hope we hear even less from you in the future :-).

on July 28, 2007 10:22 PM
# Caitlin said:

I usually just read your feed, but I wanted to say congrats to the both of you and wish you the best. :)

on July 28, 2007 10:31 PM
# sudhir said:

congratulations !

on July 28, 2007 10:36 PM
# Bill said:

Congrats to you both, Jeremy!

on July 28, 2007 10:54 PM
# JB said:

Congrats as well! Nice to see two people sharing their interests. (And also nice to see a US woman using Blanik glider manufactured in my country.)

on July 28, 2007 11:01 PM
# rich skrenta said:

congrats dude! Marriage is good. Wishing you both all the best!!!

on July 28, 2007 11:03 PM
# elly parker said:

Hey Jeremy, had to pop over from RSS and just say a big congrats to the two of you! I got married just over a month ago and I'm of the opinion that it's the best time of my life! Savour every minute, take plenty of photos and watch the radiance of your beautiful bride-to-be!

on July 29, 2007 12:08 AM
# Darren Rowse said:

Congratulations Jeremy and Kathleen!

on July 29, 2007 12:11 AM
# Carlo Zottmann said:

Congratulations from Germany! You go, guys... :)

on July 29, 2007 01:41 AM
# Alden said:

Congratulations, you guys! :)

on July 29, 2007 01:49 AM
# Shane Wright said:

Congratulations from a long time lurker on your blog, wish you both all the best for the future,


on July 29, 2007 02:06 AM
# Steve Mason said:

Congrats, I wish you both the best.

on July 29, 2007 02:08 AM
# Atul Chitnis said:


Congrats all the way from India, Jeremy! Way to go!

on July 29, 2007 02:36 AM
# Darren said:


on July 29, 2007 02:44 AM
# Justin Mason said:

Hooray! Conga rats from Ireland, too ;)

on July 29, 2007 02:46 AM
# Indrek said:

'grats, man!

on July 29, 2007 03:14 AM
# BillyG said:

Congratulations JZ!

Is it time to change your captcha yet?

Is a mile-high club, I mean wedding in order?

on July 29, 2007 03:34 AM
# Derek said:

Congrats to both of you!

on July 29, 2007 03:42 AM
# amorson said:

Congratulation Jeremy!!!

Good Luck and be happy!

on July 29, 2007 04:23 AM
# Barry Schwartz said:

Wow, congrats guys!

on July 29, 2007 04:51 AM
# Jason Schramm said:


on July 29, 2007 05:10 AM
# Asa Bour said:

Congratulations Jeremy!


on July 29, 2007 05:46 AM
# Rick S said:

Jeremy - I've enjoyed your blog as a lurker for quite a while
now. Just wanted to pass along my congratulations, one geek
to another geek: it is always hard to get proper balance
in our lives, and I am glad to see you've achieved that
"next" level! Spoken as a guy who has been married 20
years and still struggles to balance married life, kids,
tech, aviation, ..... :)

on July 29, 2007 05:53 AM
# Luke Melia said:

Congrats to you both from New York City!

on July 29, 2007 06:10 AM
# Josh Woodward said:

Hot damn! Sara and I are both super-happy for you. Millions of congrats!

on July 29, 2007 06:10 AM
# sylvia said:

Congratulations, both of you! That's wonderful news. :)

on July 29, 2007 06:39 AM
# Rachel Clarke said:

Congratulations - sounds a great match

on July 29, 2007 06:46 AM
# Egor Egorov said:

"I can't possibly be this lucky..."

This is exactly how a marriage is supposed to feel like! Jeremy, that's a GREAT news in the blog! And despite being socially and topologically far away from you, I am very happy to read this post. So, congratulations, and good luck, man! :-)

on July 29, 2007 07:10 AM
# jim winstead said:


on July 29, 2007 07:23 AM
# Jeremy Cole said:

Awesome! Good luck, and feel free to move to Reno and have babies. :) Ours will need some little playmates. :D

on July 29, 2007 07:39 AM
# Tamar Weinberg said:

Awesome news! Congratulations, Jeremy!!!

on July 29, 2007 07:56 AM
# Jeff Barr said:

Congratulations Jeremy!

on July 29, 2007 08:01 AM
# Thomas Bindl said:

Congrats and all the best for the two of you! :)

on July 29, 2007 08:07 AM
# Jeff Boulter said:

Congrats! How does she feel marrying a celebrity of the internets? :-)

on July 29, 2007 08:07 AM
# Don MacAskill said:


on July 29, 2007 08:09 AM
# Mike Salisbury said:

Congratulations Jeremy!

on July 29, 2007 08:22 AM
# Martin said:

Congratulations Jeremy!

on July 29, 2007 08:51 AM
# wbwither said:

Wow! I wondered what was behind those earlier posts. Congrats!

on July 29, 2007 09:01 AM
# Joan said:


on July 29, 2007 10:48 AM
# Ono said:

Man, that's excellent news. Congratulations! Having seen Kathleen on some of your Flickr pics, this news does not really come as a surprise to me and no doubt other readers... You really seem happy together: enjoy it!

on July 29, 2007 11:36 AM
# Chad Dickerson said:

This is wonderful news! Congrats!

on July 29, 2007 11:39 AM
# Pete W said:

Congratulations Jeremy! My best wishes to both you and Kathleen! : )

on July 29, 2007 12:44 PM
# Dave B said:


on July 29, 2007 01:24 PM
# Donal said:

Congratulations from another lurker!

on July 29, 2007 02:30 PM
# Matthew K said:

Great stuff! Best of luck together. :)

on July 29, 2007 03:27 PM
# spi said:

Congrats! from yet another lurker coming over from the feed. :)

on July 29, 2007 03:36 PM
# John Herren said:

Awesome, Congrats!

on July 29, 2007 03:57 PM
# Joseph Hunkins said:

Congratulations Kathleen! ... and Jeremy you too. I hope you explained that Kathleen instantly inherits thousands of friends from your blogging. Sounds like a great match for both of you and I wish you both all the best.

on July 29, 2007 04:22 PM
# Kevin Burton said:

Sweet. You picked a good guy Kathleen!

Just don't slow down his posting volume ;)


on July 29, 2007 05:41 PM
# Mark Mascolino said:


on July 29, 2007 06:25 PM
# Zhasper said:

Congratulations :)

on July 29, 2007 07:19 PM
# John said:

Congrats! Does she have a sister? :-)

How did you guys meet!?!?

on July 29, 2007 07:19 PM
# Matt Cutts said:

That's great news! Congrats and best wishes to you both. :)

on July 29, 2007 09:46 PM
# Rob Steele said:
on July 29, 2007 11:12 PM
# Roland Tanglao said:


on July 30, 2007 12:43 AM
# Titanas said:


on July 30, 2007 04:40 AM
# Bryce said:

I'm very happy for you. Congratulations!

on July 30, 2007 06:24 AM
# Matthew Rothenberg said:


on July 30, 2007 06:34 AM
# Vijay said:

Awesome Jeremy,

Wedding bells. Do you want to share how you proposed. It would be a fun read. I am expecting a little it geeky proposal though.

on July 30, 2007 06:54 AM
# bstolte said:

Congratulations to both you guys

on July 30, 2007 07:48 AM
# Joel said:

Congratulations! I'm curious to hear your unconventional wedding plans. When my wife and I were married we had a small civil ceremony with only immediate family present. Then on our one year anniversary we had a big celebration that was like a more traditional wedding (complete with vow renewal, giving away of bride, wedding party, etc). Like yourself, when I met my wife I couldn't believe all the ways in which we were compatible. I still feel like the luckiest man alive. Also, because the relationship was long distance (east-coast to west-coast) we spent a grand total of 21 days together before we got married - but when you know, you know. Best wishes to you both!

on July 30, 2007 07:50 AM
# Matt W said:

Congratulations! That's great news :)

on July 30, 2007 08:05 AM
# Jeff said:

Congrats, there's hope for all us geeks!

on July 30, 2007 08:22 AM
# Ben Metcalfe said:

Wow dude - congrats. Being married is great, even though it took me 5 years to get around to it.

So happy for you + hope to meet Kathleen one day. Does she have a blog? :)

on July 30, 2007 09:36 AM
# Jeremy Zawodny said:


No blog, no. See also "she has little of an online footprint." :-)

on July 30, 2007 09:38 AM
# Jocke said:

I've read your blog for about a year (and find it very interesting) and never made any comments, so I figure if any time, this is a good time.

Congratulations to you both!

// Jocke, Sweden

on July 30, 2007 09:51 AM
# Nicki Dugan said:

Woohoo! Congrats, Jeremy! Who's flying the plane to the honeymoon destination? I want the proposal story...

on July 30, 2007 10:09 AM
# Greg Cohn said:

I'm happy to add my congratulations to this long-and-getting-longer list - bravo!

on July 30, 2007 11:04 AM
# Ellen said:

Hay Jeremy -- congrats and best wishes to you and Kathleen!

on July 30, 2007 11:38 AM
# Jeanne said:

What wonderful news! Congratulations Jeremy!

on July 30, 2007 12:09 PM
# Kathleen said:

Thank you for the congratulations.

We are both very lucky!

on July 30, 2007 01:05 PM
# Rae said:

>>>Some of them were the likely the result of the fact that I simply hadn't made dating a priority for a long time

Been there, met you. Unfortunately, I wasn't able to change their ways... congrats to both of you - it sounds like you're both very dedicated to each other and that rocks :)

on July 30, 2007 02:11 PM
# Randy Stewart said:


I agree with JR that eloping isn't a bad idea. On the other hand, if you can plan it quickly, that's not bad either. I seen otherwise sane people driven nuts by the typical one year of planning insanity. We planned ours in 3 months.


on July 30, 2007 02:13 PM
# Bruce and Carolyn Morse said:

As parents of the bride, we were delighted to read Jeremy's blog. Kathleen is sooo pleased and happy as are all of the people in her family who know and love her.

on July 30, 2007 02:24 PM
# Rocky Agrawal said:

Congratulations. Did you fly a glider with a banner for the proposal?

on July 30, 2007 03:07 PM
# Mario Chamorro said:

Good work - from breakdown to engagement in under 3 months. I wish every low point I ever had wound up so good. Congratulations and best wishes for a fantastic future.

on July 30, 2007 05:54 PM
# Kim and Dave said:

We could not be happier for you both!
We loved your blog today...how awesome!
Enjoy the ride!

Kim and Dave (sister and brother-in-law)

on July 30, 2007 05:59 PM
# dedian said:

great news which makes life hopeful, and i hope i am not the last person to know this story. keep watching love stories

on July 30, 2007 06:16 PM
# said:

Sounds like you've hit the lotto. Congratulations!!!

For the terminally curious, did you meet this young lady via Yahoo Personals (or another web-based dating site)?

Geeks need love, too...

on July 30, 2007 06:59 PM
# Jeremy Zawodny said:

No dating sites were harmed in the making of this relationship... I'll write more about that later, maybe...

on July 30, 2007 07:07 PM
# Aaron Brazell said:

You're th man, Jeremy. Congrats to you. And to you, Kathleen. Enjoy your lives together. It sounds like you already have. So maybe kick it up a notch. :)

on July 30, 2007 08:48 PM
# optional said:

congratulations! that is great

on July 30, 2007 08:51 PM
# davidk said:

I'm late to the party, but congratulations Jeremy. I'm really happy that you found somebody so perfect for you--its definitely a rarity in today's world.

Also, its nice to finally find out who Kathleen is; your Flickr photostream didn't give too many clues. :)

on July 30, 2007 09:10 PM
# Pooya said:

Wohooo. Lots of comments... Congrats. It's always happy to see geeks happy.

on July 30, 2007 10:06 PM
# Patrick Mullen said:

Congratulations Jeremy and Kathleen!

I got a chuckle over the "compatibility" points you discussed. Boy, do you have a lot to learn!! IMHO marriage is all about respect, but that is merely one man's viewpoint.

Go with it; and be good to each other.

I enjoy your not really random, quite interesting "bits."

on July 31, 2007 04:28 AM
# cell x said:

I'm so happy for you, enjoy life to the fullest and be more happy. I'm happy when people find their special partner for life, it's one of the most beautiful things in our life.

on July 31, 2007 06:38 AM
# Jason Barnes said:

Congratulations! An older woman, well done! :P

on July 31, 2007 07:23 AM
# Mark Fletcher said:

A little late here, but Congratulations! I hope you guys have a long and happy life together.

on July 31, 2007 09:20 AM
# Pete Prodoehl said:

Congrats! I just got married to a wonderful woman, and it's a great thing. I wish you both a lifetime of happiness together.

on July 31, 2007 09:58 AM
# Charles said:

Congrats. I will give you the little speech I always give at every engagement/marriage occasion.

Long ago, the philosopher Socrates advised his pupils thusly: "By all means get married. If you have a good wife, you'll become happy, and if you have a bad one, you'll become a philosopher."

on July 31, 2007 10:26 AM
# Sandeep said:


on July 31, 2007 11:15 AM
# Ryan Kennedy said:

I thought you were already married to your blog. :P

On a more serious note, congrats. It feels great when you find the right person. Best wishes on a long and very happy life together.

on July 31, 2007 04:57 PM
# Nick Arnett said:

Belated congrats! (I'm traveling or I'd have seen your news sooner.) What did the Russian say? There are a million ways to have a bad marriage, but only one way to have a good one?


on August 3, 2007 06:45 AM
# Bing said:

Big congrats fron Boston! Have been reading your blog years ago since I was in China, so happy for my favorite blogger who's newly engaged!

on August 3, 2007 08:19 AM
# Mark Matthews said:

Congratulations! It's great to have someone you can come home to and talk to about other than "shop" and other than the normal household stuff! Glad you found someone with similar non-work interests!

on August 4, 2007 02:24 PM
# Joe Zawodny said:

WTF, Not even an email to the relatives in advance???

on August 5, 2007 01:45 PM
# john allspaw said:

Congrats!! For all your 'unconventional' wedding plans, be sure not to miss http://indiebride.com. :)

on August 5, 2007 06:18 PM
# Manu said:

Congrats !!!

on August 6, 2007 04:03 PM
# Ask Bjørn Hansen said:

Way belated here:

Congratulations; that is awesome! Being married is great fun.

- ask

on August 6, 2007 05:59 PM
# Kent Brewster said:

Also belated, but .... in the immortal words of Stephen King: may you have long lives, contented minds, and little or no lower back pain. :)

on August 8, 2007 05:34 AM
# lauralippay said:

CONGRATULATIONS!! Let me know if you need any wedding research, books, planners, venues, websites, polaroids, ribbons, spreadsheets, candle holders, table number holders, picture frames or a Saison Blanche 4049 wedding dress. ;)

on August 8, 2007 04:35 PM
# David Sifry said:


CONGRATULATIONS! You sound like a really lucky bloke, and of course, Kathleen is getting a fantastic guy as well. :-)

May you two have many many many happy years together.


on August 12, 2007 07:26 PM
# said:

Congrats -- Be happy and enjoy.

on August 14, 2007 07:39 PM
# buryya said:

she is smart and beautiful! You are really a happy man!
Good luck!

on August 15, 2007 04:30 AM
# groomsmen said:

Oh! It’s really beautiful too see that people can still love each other, and they are so happy that they actually feel the need to share that with everyone! Great!

on February 20, 2008 06:11 PM
# ascii chart said:

Congrats, man!

on August 21, 2008 01:16 AM
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