Porn Makes You Want Less Real Sex

While an interesting assertion, the article appears to be just that - someone's opinion written as though it were fact.

What?! You mean that wasn't intended as an entertainment piece?

Heh.

So, Jeremy, how has porn influenced / changed your life?

"Porn Makes Me Want More Real Sex"

I'm a woman and I've watched porn before - here's my two cents...

First of all, some of these women (= porn stars) have breast implants and wear tons of make-up on their faces. I don't have and don't want foreign objects in my body. Women with two round foreign objects in their body are not attractive (at least to me). In my opinion, it's absolutely absurd that women would insert these things into their bodies. I also don't want to plaster myself with make-up.

Second of all, "porn stars" have sex for money. It's a job. When you look at their faces, their emotions are fake. I don't see real pleasure, closeness/warmth/love between partners, and everything looks, well, forced with very bad acting.

And what about men? Do they compare themselves to male porn stars? Can they compete with them? Does an average man have opportunities to have sex with women who look like porn stars? I think not.

Anyway, we all know having sex with a partner you sincerely love and trust is the best. It's really sad and disappointing that majority of the population think these forced/cold pornographic films are entertaining and compare them to the real world.

Porn Makes Me Want More Real Sex

Bullshit. Looking at web porn just makes me want to fuck my wife. If anything, it augments and focuses. Hardly diminishes.

It's been a few hours, and reading this story again, it is just the biggest load of shit since Cheney said we'd be greeted as liberators. Women LIKE PORN!! Probably as much as men do. Certainly not as often, but probably as much. :)

Hell, most of the great sex blogs are written by women.

I like this quote in the article you mentioned at the end, from the curvy one of the pair: "I like to think men see me as a yummy mummy."

(I wonder how it'd go over if she hadn't said that, but Michael Richards had referred to her that way :-)

And Dan, watch out with comments like the one you left, 'cause you know some smart ass will follow up with "yeah, looking at web porn makes me want to fuck your wife, too!" :-).

oh my god.. did you see that "model" ?
is this the role model my girls aspire too?
it made me sick.

It's interesting that porn "augments and focuses" your desire to have sex with your wife. Not for me. I don't need to watch porn to increase my desire to "fuck" my husband. My husband, alone, is enough.

I guess men really ARE different from women.

I REALLY don't see the need for you to use the word "bullshit" to disagree with my opinion. Using language like that makes you look, well, shallow. When I see people like you, I laugh.

Um, and I don't think your wife would be happy when you go around telling people that you "fuck" her. That's just insensitive. I apologize if I'm wrong. Maybe she likes being "fuck"ed. I guess porn also desensitizes men.

Interesting. But, I can't say I disagree. Just from talking with friends of mine I can this. They see the air brushed, perfectly light, hand crafted scenes and want them for themselves. When they don't get it with their own women they can actually get upset that their women aren't up to par.

What's next Video Games don't cause people to kill each other?

>>Um, and I don't think your wife would be happy when you go >>around telling people that you "fuck" her. That's just >>insensitive. I apologize if I'm wrong. Maybe she likes being >>"fuck"ed. I guess porn also desensitizes men.

I did read some where once that "fucking" is defined as the activity that men take part in while women are making love.

(probly from the same article as women need a reason, men just need a place)

>> It's a stark and somewhat depressing contrast.

The curvy woman won, though.

Oh, I don't care who wants to fuck my wife. I know I'm the only one that gets to. :)

So the two pictures of the models are hugely biased. That is just as bad as porn. It's all in the presentation.

The size 12 was given her best side, was zoomed out, a warm background, she was smiling, had makeup on, soft lighting, correctly fitting clothes and positioned correctly. The other model, was pretty much the exact opposite. A direct-on picture, zoomed in to see every detail, a cold stark (industrial) background, not smiling, no makeup or pale makeup, direct harse lighting, ill-fitting clothes and positioned flat.

I imagine that if the second model was leaning over with elbows on a box, chin in hands, on a soft blue background with some longer hair and a smile; it would be quite a different story.

I'm not contending that the first girl isn't beautiful, she is, but the story manipulation start with the pictures. With proper direction and setup everyone can look like porn stars.

This reminded me of something I saw not too long ago, namely the transition from a "model coming in off the street" to "model on billboard".

I found myself watching it over and over again, amazed at all the things they can do, and forwarded it to the parents of several teenage girls, and a couple of parents of teenage boys, who will be the ones who have their expectations shaped by these sorts of things.

http://tj.tntluoma.com/thoughts/a-true-image-is-worth

I know a raped girl it is because the guy was watching porn

I can understand how middle-Americans might call "bullshit" on this article, but as a modern-day Brit I can definitely see where this article is coming from. I drive a 17-year old acquaintance to work every day, and I think he suffers from the "real women are just bad porn" mentality. There is definitely a large class of the population who could share this viewpoint.

it's known thing in Islam, watching pron, or ladies boy make you want less real sex, it doesn't make you in love with your wife since you see such things.

I read that article in New York Magazine and thought it rather sad. So many young men are searching for the unattainable and there are very few Giselle Bundchens around (or Jenna Jamisons). Watching women perform on porn sites (and in off-line porn videos) gives an unrealistic portrayal of what "real" sex is like, although frankly you can learn a few pointers on occasion. If you are a young male who is looking for what you consider a perfect body, an always made up face, a woman with not a hair out of place, and wearing sexy clothing you'd be VERY lucky to meet such a woman offline. The rest of us have children, jobs, laundry to do, groceries to buy, and chores and although we enjoy sex we're frustrated knowing we're frequently compared to plastic surgery enhanced bodies who put out on demand in whatever way the adult male imagination can come up with (pun intended).

ya know thats crap, is it our fault most women are money grubbing man killers?, we like the ladies in porn because thats the image of sex we want. were tired of all the bull about it, look and do what these wonderfule ladies do and we would want you too, stop being prostatutes, and be real... porn is great!!!! no yip yap from the mouth like you real women talk, shut up some time... heres a tip, dont talk with my nuts in your mouth... and while your there swallow the semen so there aint a mess.... there i fixed your problum now get a life

Ive been beating off to internet porn for years. its funny because i was having a conversation with my girlfriend the other week ( and many previous times) about how i want her to be more of a slut. Guess porn is making the normal stuff boring.

My friend is 'big' on his porn, and it Definatly doesn't stop him going after girls... hes even got himself a girlfriend now...
yet, unlike me, once i got myself a girlfriend, i stoped with the porn, i have a girlfriend, why would i need porn anymore?

[note I said 'I', the rest of you can continue to your hearts content]

I think the article has some truth to it. Maybe some men get enough with the porn and don't feel they need their girlfriend to get them off.
It is really a shame because women like sex, too, and if the man never wants it because they don't feel their girlfriend is up to par, they begin to feel horrible about themselves.
On the occassion that the man wants sex, if the woman doesn't want to, can you blame her? She feels like she is being compared to some perfect vision of what males deem beautiful.....
That being said, I'd rather have my man watching real porn with unattainable "beauty" than some random real girl online who is more often than not uglier than me...what the hell is that all about anyway?

women who do porn are just making money yeah but i just think that thats wrong for women to sell their bodies. if ur a real man you would get a real girl not jus pictures or a video.

That phiosophy does not reflect the average male's reaction.

Personality and friendship counts for alot in many societies and communities

No matter how good something looks - you still neet aura and karma and a warm human touch

My thoughts? I'm not really sure, I know my boyfriend watches porn but he doesn't talk to me about it. I have a feeling he is embarassed though I'd rather have him talk to me about it so I know why he likes it so much.

I am really not into porn but I'm open to suggestions. I just don't know why he will not talk to me about it.

Also his silence adds to my own insecurity that perhaps these women on "porn" are his fantasy girls and I cannot compete with them. (Though I've seen some of the websites with these "free porn" and some of these girls are def. not pretty).

Ok bear with me because I'm probably going to write a lot. I started working in porn three months ago. Crazy, but I'm just a real girl who does porn. There are plenty of girls who are real in porn, though there's no question that there is a lot of plastic surgery (esp. boob jobs)...but porn is fantasy and over the top that way. Yeah there are ugly girls in porn...sometimes they're popular bc they're good performers or some are shot just because they need people to shoot or they have a nice body. I think unless the ugliness just overwhelms the scene, sometimes sex is sex and watching any sex will get the viewer going.

I've watched porn where it seems forced and you can see the chick thinking "when am I going to get my check?" but I know I have fun when I shoot and do actually orgasm and enjoy myself.

When I watched porn before getting into the industry (and I know this is true for friends who have told me) it was a catalyst for sex or an outlet for fantasies or just "hey I'm horny and want some fodder for masturbation" (especially men who are very visual). And it's not just for men. I know women who watch porn. And there are women directors.

Porn doesn't have to equal real life. It shouldn't be everything and it shouldn't be taken as reality but it doesn't hurt to partake in. I watch porn--hell, I make porn--and I still love real sex. I still like sex and making love and fucking. It's all the same and all different and all fun.

I think some people take porn too seriously and hinge too much on it. It's a fun thing but take it with a grain of salt. And whether your man fantasizes about Jenna Jameson or Angelina Jolie or Gisele Bundchen, if you're insecure then you'll never feel like you're enough. I mean I can understand because I'm a woman and I look at pictures of models and wish I could look like that.

I'm even dating someone who is male talent in the industry and he works with some women who have amazing bodies (enhanced or not) or who are pretty but I deal with it because I know I look at pictures of people I think are attractive and fantasize about them sometimes but that doesn't diminish sex with him or the way I feel about him.

For Greg, yes some women do it for the money AND SO DO THE MEN IN PORN. You may think it's wrong for people to sell their bodies but I've had jobs doing retail or admin or other stuff where I felt like more of a whore than I do having sex on camera with colleagues. Personally, I got into it because I was curious and it's fun...I mean I get to get dressed up and have sex and get paid. There are downsides as with everything but it's a great job and I'm enjoying myself right now.

I don't want to ramble too much. So basically I think people just take it too seriously...porn fulfills a purpose but it shouldn't be everything. Quit reading so much into it. And stop thinking women are so damn insecure.

I just stumbled onto this page while searching for something else and got sucked in, so it's probable that I won't find my way back on here. If you'd like to respond or have questions feel free to email me at lenalang.xxx@gmail.com but please don't harass me because you have some vendetta against porn.

I am a man who is married.There a lot of porn sites whitch have real couples and married couples who are not porn stars but normal people making a little money for deposit for a house etc.Also young girls left on there own so they can ogasim to the stationry camera (no one els in the room).I could give you the web addrresses of these sites but dont Know if i am alowed.The thing about these sites is that every efort is made for these girls to come and i am sure they do.And most of them do it for real normally not with a lot of nose but a lot of mussle spasems and heavy breathing and red fases.

i think men who look at porn are filthy. i never go near a guy who watches porn or even has 'lads mags' they are down grading and i feel pressure to look as good as these air brushed sluts. even though my lovely boyfriend isnt interested in that trash,i know that kind of imagery is everwhere and personally it has affected me badly. porn shouldnt be allowed. and for those people who think playboy is cool.. maybe you didnt know that they published an artcle on 'how to beat your wife without leaving marks'thats porn for you!
thanks for reading this
shona

I'm a 32 year old woman that had no problem with porn 5 years ago. When I started seeing my current boyfriend he told me that he had a porn addiction. My first reaction was, So... I like porn too. My boyfriend is the most wonderful man in the world and I love him with my whole heart. I would do anything for him. Even in the beginning things had to start and finnish with oral. That was O.K. I missed the mutual orgasm and his orgasm inside me but he was such a kind, honest,loving man that I didn't mind. After 6mo he didn't want sex at all anymore, and when he did not only did it have to start and end in oral but I'd have to stop and get him hard again constantly during. It's more work than fun so now neither of us want it. But we still love each other. What can I do to make him want me again?

By the way, I'm not fat and I'm not ugly. My brests aren't fake but they are big and fucking great. Also I like my boyfriend to "fuck" me, he just can't have sex with real women anymore. Not even if there were two of us.

modern Western culture is seriously flawed, but so is the author's logic when she concludes that her orthdox friend is onto something because she wears a bag on her head and her husband is the only one who gets to see her. isn't that kowtowing in the extreme to the dreaded 'male gaze' as much as women who dress like sluts to get men's attention? neither is a solution, it's pretty shokcing she would conclude this way.

the author interviews college students and is disappointed by their supposed sad lives. what's clear to me here is not that porn is ruining society, but that these college kids are mixed up and unsure of themselves. that is, they're like all college kids. if anything this says more about the infanitlization of young people these days. in the author's day, a college-aged person was a resonsible adult, nowadays you aren't expected to have your act together until you're at least 30.

bottom line, people who would let their lives be dictated by porn were gonna take direction from something equally as vapid no matter what. it's disheartening, but we're not all that stupid. Naomi Wolf is upset that things aren't like they were in the 70's, and she may have a point. but she should probably review the way things really were then, i think she'll find women's sexual liberation was never as good as nostalgia makes it out to be. nor is the present as bleak as she paints it.

To the poster who said she had to do all this extra work to keep her man hard etc., cause he was a big wanker, I would suggest you kick him to the curb. No offense, but I had the same type of a guy once due to the same problem (too much wanking) and it just screamed "loser" to me. If he is masturbating sooo much that he's no longer man enough to satisfy his wife/gf sexually happy then I see no point in keeping that around. I loved the guy I was with too, so it was a tough decision, but eventually I just no longer saw him as a man and that did it for me.

This kind of thing appears to be happening more and more often (from what I hear from my girl friends) so it seems that porn is actually _emasculating_ our men. It's really making men seem on the whole rather pathetic, and now when I date I have to check ahead of time to see how controlled by the porn/wanking he is, because otherwise I know he's going to suck in bed. For this reason, I too tend to avoid avoid avoid the porn-consuming males out there.

hai i am new to this...just go and cool....

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karthik

at least porn is there for us and the pussy and ass is easy to find ! Real sex know isn't easy to find and I'm still a virgin so so how do you think I should get some sex walk to a girl and ask her even if she said yes who knows what her pussy looks like it maybe sweet like and pure or used and hedises?

Even though it's been two years, people like shona are part of the problem with a lot of women. They only want guys to be sexual on THEIR terms, and no one else's. If the guy likes sex, he's not allowed to express that unless he's having sex with her in a beautiful, DIVINE, ANGELIC experience that meets her expectations and doesn't derive from anything she wouldn't normally do. Well I'm sorry, but that just doesn't cut it. Guys are human too, and while they have an obligation to satisfy your sexual needs if they're in a relationship with you, that doesn't mean they can only be sexual when you decide it.

Porn is mainly a way for us to experience different types of sex without actually doing these things. It can be a replacement for sex when you're single and have no serious prospects in sight, or it can be an addition to an otherwise healthy sex life with a partner who will not do certain things. I will not any potential partner tie me up. Never. I think it's lame and boring, and besides that, I don't trust anyone not to harm me while I'm in that state. Yes, not even a girlfriend. I've heard too many stories of things that went wrong when a wife or girlfriend was angry at their husband/boyfriend and decided to get back at them during sex. So, no thanks on the tying up scenario. Doesn't mean I'm gonna tell my girlfriend she absolutely cannot watch any videos of people getting tied up. That's just asking for a slap for not minding my own business. But that leads me to my next point.

What about those of us who will never have time for a relationship because of our schooling, our jobs, and other endeavors that we have to accomplish that are more important? Would you deny us our only source of sexual satisfaction? If you would, then you're a cold hearted monster and I don't even want to know how cruelly you treat the men in your life. Also, what about female masturbation? Is a woman rubbing herself off in bed to a fantasy any better than a guy wanking to porn at a computer? We've heard so long about how guys are allowed to wank and women are supposed to be ashamed of it, yet now we're seeing a trend where women view guys who wank as being pathetic while they're allowed to rub themselves off all they like and indulge in every type of self-pleasuring imaginable. Don't believe me? Ask shona what she does to satisfy herself when there isn't a guy around. I'll bet her answer won't be "go seek out a guy as soon as possible!"

I watch a lot of porn, and that doesn't make me want real sex any less. If anything, it makes me want real sex more. It shows me how much fun sex can be, but I've also heard of all the hassles that come with sex - sweaty bodies, awkwardness, lack of orgasm for one or both parties (and then there's the really scary stuff - STDs, pregnancy, your partner cheating on you), and that really throws a damper on the incentive one might have to have sex. I don't want to be rolling around in the sack with a sweaty, disgusting person who is going to find the whole thing awkward and not orgasm no matter what I do! It's like the example I always use of a person getting explained to them what it's like to be a cop, with none of the positives. The officer tells them "it's nothing like you see on TV. It's a shit job with low pay, tough hours, no recognition, and a lot of risking your life every day of the week, and getting nothing in return." Are you going to want to be a cop after hearing that? NO! Of course not. You are going to get say "get the hell away from me! I don't want to be a cop: it sounds like shit!" Likewise, if you only hear about the negatives of sex - and that's all we hear a lot of the time from Republican conservatives and medical professionals/social advocates - porn seems like a very good alternative to the actual process of sex. There the people ARE having fun, even if they're faking it, and as long as they put on a good enough show, especially if they're amateurs, that's good enough for you. I want to experiment, but I also don't want to deal with all the awkwardness and bullshit that comes with sex, and porn is a great way to do that. You're not going to be worrying afterward about all the concerns like, "did I do alright? Why was it so difficult? Oh my god, what if she's pregnant? What if she has a disease she didn't tell me about?" and all that garbage that can occur even when you have safe sex and are perfectly prepared for it.

Women like Brianna don't help matters either. So instead of trying to wean the guy off the porn to help him please you more and achieve a balance between the two, you advise dumping him right away without even giving him a chance? You didn't "love him" then, if he was that easily disposable to you. It's one thing if you gave him a chance and he blew it, but it really doesn't sound like that was the case. Forgive me if that's not the case, but that's what it sounds like. So then you go and get yourself a guy who satisfies you in bed, then treats you like shit the rest of the time, and it'll be worth it just because you're getting off? And writing off all the "porn consuming guys"? So that's what - pretty much any single guy who doesn't have a girlfriend and still needs some way to find some relief, without a hooker or anything like that? That's going to leave a very small amount of guys, and those will likely be the guys who are so consumed by other activities, they don't have time for anything else. That's why they don't like porn, not because they're opposed to it, but because they're simply too damn busy with other things to bother with it (and yes, that means they'll be too busy to have sex with you when you get together with them. How many wives haven't we heard complaining of their husbands never having sex with them, despite the fact they don't watch a lick of porn? It's a common occurrence; I'm not just making this up.) Or else, and much worse, you're going to end up with the extremely religious guys who view sex as some kind of edict from God, which means it can only be done in certain ways and is strictly for the man and procreating only. Those are the kinds of guys that are "above porn". And while there are a few genuinely great guys who aren't interested in porn, they're already going to be taken, if they're so damn perfect. It's nothing against them, I'm just saying - if they're that perfect, they already have a girlfriend, or they're married.

I think I could be a pretty damn good lover if given the chance. I would listen to my partner, I would do everything they told me to in terms of what it took to please them, and I would go down on them at every opportunity possible. But I know that's not physically possible given my schedule and my awkward social tendencies (I'm not a big party goer, I don't like to go to bars, I don't like to drink, etc.). I am never going to have a relationship, and to be honest, I'm not sure I want one. I know a fairly obvious joke could be made about "women of the world being thankful for that", but the truth is I'm not really this harsh most of the time. I'm a very quiet, solitary guy who keeps his own opinions to himself and doesn't really mess with anybody. I just don't have the time or the courage for sex. But at least porn gives me a taste of what I'm missing, and don't have the time to pursue. People like shona would have us simply pretend we don't have any sex drives altogether, and take away a world of enjoyment for thousands upon thousands of people. No, scratch that. Millions, if the revenue of porn sites and the adult industry is anything to go by.

Is is possible to grow too attached to sex? Yes, but that goes for anything. Coffee, sugar, movies, TV shows, video games, sports, hobbies, etc.; things that aren't even 'wrong' like cigarettes and drugs. That doesn't mean the whole product is worthless and in need of disposing. Porn serves a vital role in this society, and it has nothing to do with raising expectations to unrealistically high levels. Don't dismiss it just because a few people can't control themselves once they get into it.

I used to like porn, in fact I still do, but now I find myself getting jealous over those girls in porn. Why? Because my boyfriend has hundreds of videos on his computer, watches porn at home and at work and not even glances at me. I have to beg for sex, and when I get "lucky" it's always bad, fast and boring. he's incredibly selfish in bed, not to mention quiet. I do blame it on porn, since I had never had that problem before. He spends hours and hours a day looking at naked girls on the internet and downloads a bunch of videos of girls pleasuring themselves. I t has become a problem, and it has left me feeling, ugly, frustrated, dissatisfied and sad. So for the most part i believe porn is ok, just as long as people can control it's use and don't let porn control them.

It's just sad when you wake up next to your boyfriend, who's vigorously masturbating with your personal lube to some super thin blonde skank getting banged on YOUR computer. All the while, every night you fall asleep wishing your man would touch you, but he doesn't. You sit there hoping that you're pretty enough that when you lay down together and you're completely naked that your man will find you desirable and give it to you. But NO. You go to sleep disappointed, again, then wake up to him jacking off to porn, right next to you, using YOUR computer! I really fucking hate porn. I use to enjoy it, a lot. That's over.

People need to remember that masturbating and porn are seperate things. Lonely? Frustrated? Hell. Beat off all you want. Need porn to make it work? You are a cripple. Porn groov bad or good-but dependancy sucks-

Wow! I cannot believe some of the comments on here. I will not lie, I watch porn and jerk off every day at least once (sometimes like 10 times if my gf is away or something :o). I also have sex with my girlfriend 3-5 times a day. She thinks its kind of odd that I look at so much porn but just figures its good because I always seem to know what to do in bed and am always getting her to try new things. We have an extremely healthy sex life together (5 years) and I don't see that changing any time soon.

I love porn so much, I now work from home in the jizz biz, making porn sites and we have now began making our own porn (gf and I).

Porn is just entertainment, and in no way has any relation to what goes on with my gf and I. If your man doesn't want to touch you and is jerking off to porn late at night when you are sleeping its because of some other problem in your relationship.

For example, if I had a gf who i found out cheated, I might not be ready to break up with her but might find I do not want to have sex with her anymore... thus wanking it at night. OR I have a girlfriend who just is letting herself go ie no showers, weight gain, not shaving legs etc, sorry nobody wants to stick their dick in that, thus wanking it at night again lol. Just some examples.

And don't think guys don't ever get insecure about women watching porn, does every guy have a 6 pack and a foot long penis? NO lol but who cares? its just harmless entertainment.

My 2 cents, every guy ive ever known in my whole life has admitted to watching porn, so get over it!!!!!

To the girl frustrated that her boyfriend would rather jerk off then have sex with you, I truly emphasize with you, still I can’t agree with you hating porn because of it. It could indeed be the case that airbrushed images of perfect models and standardize sex scenes have had a negative effect on your boyfriend, but it would be a logical fallacy to generalize that to all men. Some men don’t even find such images as worthwhile porn. And like Anthony said some men who watch porn need to explore their sexuality without all the pressures of the real world—and if you are to claim they shouldn’t be allowed to then how fair can it be that women should benefit from the sexual revolution. You (women in general) talk about how porn makes you feel insecure or less beautiful but lets be real; the media does the same thing to men who don’t uphold this ridiculous absurd image of masculinity. The man who jerks off but doesn’t get real sex is someone to laugh at, to joke about, a nerd, or ‘loser.’ So if you have a guy who doesn’t even want to please you, if you don’t feel beautiful in his eyes, or if your sex life has become to scripted, perhaps it time you stop making the guys who would love to please you, feel insecure with your conformity to the status quo. Give socially awkward guys like Anthony a chance. I know from experience that so many guys as such probably think you absolutely beautiful, but know they can’t compete with that macho image that you hold.
Don’t be a hypocrite. It’s interesting how some many female recording artist (and even male artist who put down other men) put down so many guys in their songs as scrubs and losers only to later write a new track about how their boyfriend is cheatin lying bastard. And yet it never crosses their mind to stop going out with those types of guys. There are even the women who stay single (not even dating) for years even decades playing the all or nothing game. And if u want live like that’s fine, but don’t deny me or any other guy the right to experiment with alternative forms of sexuality until things improve. And for me that’s all porn is; an alternative, better than nothing but by no means the ultimate goal. Those who live by all or nothing will most often find that the nothing prevails.

My personal thoughts on porn is, well, point blank, I think it should be banded. I'm engaged & have been for the last 2 years. My fiancé, I'll call him Aaron, he would rather watch porn or look at porn pictures of lesbians then have any type of sex with me, whether oral or not. He used to love oral sex but then I went through his web history on his phone & found porn sites & found out he would rather masturbate than fuck me. I love havin sex & especially with him, he is well endowed. He brings me to an orgasm within maybe 2 minutes. Since we've got the web on our phones he's totally ignored the the fact that I WANT SEX! Porn is an abombmination. It should be banded & never to be spoke of again. My fiancé would rather use this right hand that needs to be adjusted every so often but with sex he can use a vagina that never needs to be adjusted at all. Therefore porn should be banded! I don't look at porn & want nothing to do with it. Porn is an abombmination! I don't want any snide remarks about my facts either!!!

Again it look as if Karleigh is yet another women so selfish as to think that because her man would rather masturbate then fuck her everyman and for that matter some women should not be allowed to look at porn. How absurd! Perhaps she should ask what is it about the porn that makes it so much more pleasing to her fiancé then having sex with her. Perhaps she should try and live up to the task of pleasing her fiancé.

I also have a problem with the way many women (and some men) are implying universality of this masturbation making real women less attractive phenomena base on individual cases. Even if one was willing to yield that as true, such a discussion will go back and forth because as of yet nobody—myself included—has shown that banning or keeping it legal does ‘overall’ more or less harm.

Such a debate would be quite a challenge to say the least but luckily porn supports are protected by the 1st Amendment to the Constitution. Take John Stuart Mill’s harm principle from “On Liberty� (1859) for example:

"The only purpose for which power can be rightfully exercised over any member of a civilized community, against his[/her] will, is to prevent harm to others (Wikipédia)�

Of course in our argument so far there are two conflicting harms, one being the loss of the pleasure of jerking off to or simply watching porn, and the second being women being passed over or denied sex because of porn. Making laws to protect someone from rejection—save cases of systematic discrimination—is a slipper slope. You can’t ban porn just because the images on a computer screen are more pleasing to guys then you are, and that’s assuming that the original premise holds true. It would be like Dell trying to make Macs illegal because there gaining popularity, or Burger King saying we should ban McDonalds because they have more sales, or even classical musicians supporting full blown censorship of rap/pop music just because more people are listening to it. In fact given our sometimes extreme sense of Capitalism, one might say that banning porn is not the American way! The industry is booming so let it do its thing.

i hate girls who say porn is healthy and i watched it and now its staged abd if porn was never around girls ses there personality is valued more by mean then therr breast and beauty. but no girls think money more inportant and porn stars know there no such thing as safe sex in porn industry. i feel guilty that a watched it and feel for people who are really to girls or guys who being taking advantange of. are girls really wanted have safe sex with real men or women who dont take advantage of there bodies and treat them like object and igrls bodies are not object

ill admit it i hate looking at porn and want help and it all started when i was 14 and my dad comp was hit with a porn pop up virus but from 18 1/2 to 20 i top looking at it but i benn on it 2 yrs again and want out of it and the main reason i started up again was cause it always happen when i get bored. and have had no social interraction males or females and would to have a group of female and male so can eventually have a girlfriend. in half a year into my porn addiction i realize it was all stage. i think the main reason people get into the porn industry is cause they have no friends or lack social skills. even know mine have gotten better and before that i said to myself everyday when i watched it i would not want to be treated like an object by females or even get myself into an industry like that

porn industries needs to go out of buisness and tube web site need to go of buisness so those people can get into real relationship

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Girls and guys need to realize there fanatizing about sex in relationship and i agree with women that porn should banned. I would rather get know the girls for atleast 2-4 weeks before having an sexual relationship with her. If had a girlfriend or had an group guys and girlsfriend then i would never have kmewn what porn was or started it up. I hate fake ass women who do plastic guys or there pornmate or the porn star director make them feel insecured about their bodies. I dont care how big the women breast and sexy her face or ass is cause for that matches my personality or doesnt . Hey kareliegh u should be and relationship specialist

To Stephen
I don’t believe anyone here has denied that porn was just fantasy. The question was, more or less, is the fantasy becoming a substitute to such an extreme that by some psychological mechanism it becomes more gratifying than that which it was supposed to substitute. Note that the blog is straying from that to the topic of if whether or not it should remain legal.
I do agree with you, at least from my own experience—and honestly neither one of us has right to over generalize our experience to the general population—that people start out with porn out of boredom, or having little else of interest to do. I also started mainly due to limited social interaction with either males or females. But after that our opinion diverges. After all my sex drive didn’t stop at porn but ended up leading me to read feminist literature where sexuality, via by porn or other means, is not something dirty or evil but something both males and females should be able to express freely. Some girls don’t mind being porn stars; its better than some of the other options the world gave them. Another girl was doing reasonably well, but experimented with prostitution and found overall she enjoyed it.
My point is again if you don’t like that perfectly fine. Don’t watch it! But why should you force your life style on anybody else. It’s not much different than conservatives trying to stop gay marriages. The individual should be free to do and experiment, as he/she feels fit within the limits of protecting those who cannot protect themselves. And I don’t see porn as having crossed that boundary.
Lastly I hate guys who have no respect for women too but lest be real, porn is neither a necessary condition, or sole circumstance in which such a state arises. Think of yourself. You just said you felt guilt about watching porn proving that just because you watched it, that didn’t mean you had no respect for women. The respect factor doesn’t even correlate with watching porn, and correlation is never sufficient to prove causation. And before you take my own words can call me one of the ‘bad guys’ for not feeling guilt, the reason is because I’ve question the entire prevailing social structure and have come to a completely different understanding of the world.

Porn can be addictive. So can anything else you enjoy doing enough to repeat often. Addiction is a very subjective word.

If im having a lot of sex or floggin the dolphin multiple times daily I have to take things to an exciting new level or it gets boring. Porn is nice because it's like cable tv where you can flip the channels till you experience something new and exciting. In a relationship it can get challenging to bring that fresh excitement to an old routine.

For me there is only a very small percentage of the female population able to meet me on that level. I think women in general have great societal pressures that create hang ups for them in the sex department. If they are truely content with their sex life tho, more power to em.

Life is way too short for me to spend my time locked down with a women who has lost the passion for making sex exciting. If she is on a different level that's fine, I'll respect it as I move on with my life.